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Coming Out Stories Gallery - Men's Stories

Hundreds of gay men and lesbians share their stories of self-awareness and discovery, no two stories exactly alike, but all remarkably similar in that *lightbulb* moment of realization, "Yes, I am gay."

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Alan's Story
I guess my mind knew I was gay years before my consious did. Starting in elementary school, I really began to notice guys, and it continued throughout Jr. High and High School... Continued

Alan 2's Story
I am 13 years old. I think I've been gay for about 3 year but I've only KNOWN since I was about 11. When I was 12 I came out to my best friend, who I'll call 'T'. I'd been trying to tell him for about a month... Continued

Anthony's Story
I am a single father(with custody!)of an 8-yr.old son, in my twenties, and have been out for 2 years. My story is not as bold, maybe, as others, but was very liberating and a refreshing start for me... Continued

Ash's Story
I suppose it was an episode of "One day at at Time" that really did it for me. There I am a young male ... Continued

Ashton's Story
10 years ago, when I was 17, I had my first gay experience, which confirmed my feelings for the same sex, although I had known for some time before this. Hopelessly in love, I was clumsy with my discretion, and my sister had found a letter from my boyfriend, Chris... Continued

Ben's Story
I am a 19 year old boy from Cape Cod, Massachusetts. I grew up in a family of all boys. We were always pressured into playing sports. Even though I never enjoyed them. I always felt I was a little different... Continued

Beth's Story
Well I'm a Transexual(still pre-hormones but close) I am 18 and started coming out 2 years ago but I'm still kinda working at it... Continued

Boy Blue's Story
I am a 57 year old gay man and have acknowledged to myself that I am gay since I was about 18. I grew up in Texas and the South in small towns and in a very fundamentalist Christian home. My father was a Baptist minister to be exact... Continued

Brett's Story
You know everyone of us have skeletons in the closet, and for the first 18 years of my life i found myslef standing next to the skeleton too afraid to move... Continued

Brian's Story (2)
I knew I was gay since I was thirteen. But because of the small town I lived in, the narrow minded family I belonged to, and the church I attended, there just wasn't any benefit in coming out... Continued

Brian F.'s Story
I first suspected that I was gay when I was about 10 years old, before I even knew that gay meant homosexual. Not that it mattered--I had no idea what a homosexual was either... Continued

Brian K.'s Story
I have secretly ben gay for over four years now, and I have (until recently) been too ashamed to tell my family and friends about my lifetyle... Continued

Bruce's Story
I am the father of two incredible boys. On my 39th birthday, my dear, dear, wife rounded out my celebration by casting my Tarot! After telling my fortune, she looked over my spread, saying: "Bruce, I think you're Gay!"... Continued

Buck's Story
It was pretty easy. Seems like everyone knew in my family already. My mother has suggested that I go visit my gay brother in San Diego and go to college. I did... Continued

Dan's Story
December 17th, 1998, my birthday. What a day to come out to my first two friends. I remember it vividly, perhaps a little too vividly. I remember it being an awful day to begin with. I had just come home from my freshman year of college, and I was already in distress. I had to have a doctors appointment to examine whether or not I may have testicular cancer... Continued

Dan's Story (2)
Well, now that I am finally 20 I can continue on with my coming out experiences. Well, at the time one year ago I was forced to come out to my friends,man that was difficult. But over time throughout 1999, i was starting to come to grips that It would be best to tell me best friends whom i graduated with... Continued

Dan 3's Story
I've known I was gay since I was 12. I'm 19 now, and only my two best friends know; I didn't even tell THEM until I was 18. I spent 6 years in hell, and although my life is better now, I'm still afraid and I still suffer in silence everyday. But I'm here, as I understand it, to tell how I came out... Continued

Dana's Story
Well I kind of figure I was gay even back in high school. I use to look at guys in the locker room and jerk off quite a bit. Now at the age of 35 with a wife and two kids... Continued

Darren's Story NEW
I was about 10 years old when I realized that I was not like other boys. I had crushes on several boy in my class but it was around 5th grade when I had my first sexual experience with another boy and that went on until we were Freshmen in high school. I grew up in a small town in South East Kansas and the only social life was church. That is where I learned to feel ashamed of who God made me to be... Continued

Dave's Story
In retrospect, I have become aware that I was absolutely sure I was gay a long time before I knew what the word meant. My earliest memory on this was from kindergarten; we were cutting pictures out of catlogues for a President's day project. I ended up cutting out pictures of guys in their underwear and wiping saliva on their crotches. At the time, my defense was that I was trying to make it look like they'd wet their pants. It was meant to be a joke; now, it seems like more of a "subtle" clue... Continued

Dave's Story (2)
I had always known that I liked men. I knew I liked their bodies anyway, at least from the time I was four years old. But that is another story. No, no bad sexual thing ever happened to me when I was a child... Continued

David's Story
I remember when I was 11 years old and sitting in front of the TV watching an episode of "60 Minutes" focusing on the recent HIV/AIDS epidemic. They said something about gays, and it struck me like a 10-ton boulder.... Continued

David 2's Story
Well I am 26 now. I knew i was gay pretty much my whole life. But tried the "straight" way through high school even though I know I had no interest in woman. At the time I had no interest in anyone. I wanted to have fun hanging out with friends... Continued

Dormus (Matt)'s Story
My coming out story may no be the most intersting one or the newest... Continued

Ed's Story
"I knew as a teen I was destined for more than adolescent experimentation..." Continued

Eric's Story
Well I don't know really where to start but from the begining. As I was growing up in the social structure of life I relized that I had these different emotions running through my body that I didn't understand... Continued

Eric's Story (2)
i met a friend walking dowm the street we were strangers, then i went home with him and i... Continued Rated R

Harvey's Story
I grew up in a small jersey shore town, my father was just out of the army, my mother was a nurse. i was the only child for five years... Continued

Horatio's Story
Well, I guess the first indication I had of my gaiety was when I had my first real crush in sixth grade. It was on this boy named Russell, who is a dear, sweet, boy and who is a wonderful friend... Continued

Howard's Story
It's always difficult to know where to begin. Do I do it all chronologically and start by writing about how I used to get... (Note: Story contains sexual language and concepts) Continued

Janus's Story
It began since I knew what was what. I had always been interested in men but never could admit it to myself. Years went by since that begining of my memories and I grew scared of lesbians like most typical males do, but then thier power inpressed me and that was the first motion towards coming out to myself... Continued

Jason's Story
I'm 22 years old and a junior in college. I am bisexual and last march I celebrated my 3 year coming out anniversery... Continued

Jason 2's Story
I remember standing in field behind our apartment complex with my step-brother. I was newly 18 - he was a vastly older brother at 19. I had dragged him there after dinner to tell him some 'really important news'. We'd been there for nearly an hour. Me unable to form the words and he passing the time by trying to guess it out of me... Continued

Jay's Story
I started noticing that I was different around age 11 when I would look at other guys my age and older... Continued

Jim's Story
In 1963, just before I left home, I told my mother that I was gay. She was a little confused, but as far as I could tell not devastated and so some years later when I got married... Continued

Jim 2's Story
It is impossible for me to explain the amount of change that has taken place for me in the last couple of years. I guess that back then, I could not have guessed how happy I could be at this very moment. I was so deep in the closet, so set in my ways and had absolutely no plans to change that... Continued

John's Story
I came from a small city and small city also means small minds. For many many years i hide the fact that i know yhat i was gay since my early days... Continued

Jon's Story
To quote someone (the name is escaping me "I did not come out of the closet, it burnt down around me." I'm 16... Continued

KDawg's Story  
I knew I was gay from the age of 18, but I never came out. I went through college, then law school, and then met a woman I truly loved at the time. At the age of 31 I asked her to marry me, and we set the wedding for March of 2002... Continued

Kenny's Story  
My story is no different than most. I struggled for years to make my sexuality disappear. I married, fathered children, and eventually collapsed inside of myself... Continued

Kevin's Story
"Adolescent "exploration/experimentation" is what it is commonly known as. I just know that I have been attracted to other males since I reached that period in my life!..." Continued

Lance's Story
I was 43, divorced for several years from a 16 year marriage to a woman with whom I am still good friends, with two sons. One of seven children, I have always had a good relationship with my mother... Continued

Leon's Story
I was 13...I had come to the realization that i was gay 6 months ago. The first person i told was my Best friend. She was totally cool with it. Then i told my Sister in law and she was like "so" the next person I told was my aunt... Continued

M & M's Story
The day i came out the closet was the worst day of my life. I am a 18 yr old male, and I told my mother that i was gay when i was only 17... Continued

Marc's Story
My story is but a simple but heart-breaking one. - I am 20 and out. I knew I was gay ever since I was 16... Continued

Matt's Story
I almost feel guilty sometimes that my coming out was so easy (except to my parents, which hasn't happened yet). Early in high school... Continued

Matt's Story (2)
It is tough to be gay. My name is Matt, I am a Syracuse University student and I am proud to be gay. Even though I have my pride, it has always been tough to be gay... Continued

Matt's Story (3)
My name is Matt. I come from a small town in Cape Cod Massachusetts called Centerville. Ever since I was young I knew I was gay. My father would always call me gay and said things like, "All you'll ever be is a gay fag-boy."... Continued

Matty's Story
Well this year two months from now i came out to my friends who were gay and bi whom i recently have gotten to know so well that i could tell them anything... Continued

Mike's Story
My story isn't about the first time I ever came out of the closet, nor is it about the first time I ever realized I had feelings for men. Instead, it's a story about coming out to one friend in particular, who has since become my roommate and a huge part of my support system. I hope you find some kind of lesson behind it... Continued

Mike T.'s Story
My first gay experience was when I was 14, and me and my best friend Kevin were on my bed when he kissed me and ripped off my shirt... Continued

Mikey's Story
Diana Ross said it best "I'm coming out I'm coming I'm coming out... I want the world to know Got to let it show I'm coming out I want the world to know I got to let it show... Continued

Nate's Story
I am seventeen years old and I know more about pain and internal turmoil than I would like. I used to think that I was alone and that something was wrong with me. I knew that to be truely happy I was going to have to start on a journey that would define me as a person... Continued

Neo's Story
I'm a 20 year old boy from the south of Spain, this is the first time I see this web site and I felt it could be interesting to add my story... Continued

Nicholas's Story
Well mine was a little weird. This is my story. I was 16 at the time and I was a sophmore in High School. Well I had always thought about coming out but I never knew how people would react... Continued

Paul's Story
I think I had it a lot easier than most gay guys do. I knew I was gay since I was 6 and I was in my moms closet trying on her high heels. I think we all did at one stage or another. But when I started watching movies and paying more attention to the handsome, attractive actor instead of the beautifully, stunning actress, I knew something was up... Continued

Paul 2's Story
I came out late in life. Age 58. Was married have four children. Now single. All though my life I knew I was attracted to men, since I was in the 5th grade... Continued

Rich's Story
Wellllll, let me tell you about a little incident that happend to me when I came out to my employees ... Continued

Richard's Story  
I tink I have always known I am GAY since I was 17 eversince I would look at the other lads getting changed at catering college, whenever I would go shopping I would often go to a newsagents and buy gay porn mags... Continued

Robby's Story
Well, I should start by saying that I am a 17 year old male from San Antonio, TX. I have always felt as though there was something else to me than what met the eye. I, since the seventh grade, would get a crush on a male schoolmate (every now and then) whom I thought to be cute... Continued

Robert's Story
I was molested by my brother at the age of nine. That was my first encounter with a guy. Not to long after that my cousin and I started to experience in the gay life style. That acting out with my cousin lasted for five years... Continued

Robert 2's Story
I guess you could say that I did not come out of the closet I was pulled out. I had always known that I had feelings for guys more than i did for girls. When my family moved up to North Texas, I was forced to move with them. I made a lot of new friends and a lot of enemies but the friend that sticks out in my mind is my female friend Mae. She was the first person that i really came out to... Continued

Ron's Story
On Friday night, one day before our National (Irish) Coming out day, I went out on the piss with one of my best friends. I had been gearing up to tell him for weeks...

Sean's Story
It was November 24th, 2000, when I uttered the words, "Mom, you know that I'm gay, right?" Much to my suprise she said, "Yeah, I know. I was wondering when you were going to get around to telling me... Continued

Tim's Story
"Well, I'm ashamed to say there was a lot of serious denial. I told more truly cruel gay jokes than anyone else in my school, and probably inflicted a lot of misery on other gay students (if there were any) with..." Continued

Tim L's Story
I've always known I am gay. I found more inteterest in my sisters toys than the army men and tanks. I never acted on my feelings because I was unbelievably afraid until I was around 21 years old. I had come home from college for a St. Patricks day party and had become quite intoxicated, hence I was more than willing to satisfy my urges... Continued

Timothy's Story
Coming out has been a cleansing experience. For years I knew I was gay but to afraid to admit it. I lied and lied to cover up my lies... Continued

Tom's Story  
Looking back, I now realize that I have been attracted to other guys since at least early adolescence. Like many, though, I worked very hard for years to hide my gay feelings from everyone, including myself. There were a few times when I would acknowledge to myself that I might be gay but then would quickly stuff that realization again. When I was 17, there were two or three times when I looked at myself in my car mirror and shouted, "You're gay aren't you?" and then quickly shouted even louder back, "No. It can't be true."... Continued

Travis's Story
Now, my coming out story. Hmmmmm. I never really thought I would be writing this. As a little kid I was always bombarded with negative criticism about gays... Continued

Trent's Story
I am 13 years old. I just started coming out to my friends about a month ago... Continued

Troy's Story
I don't think my story reflects the way it ought to be done, but I guess there's no right or wrong way to do it. I just wouldn't recommend this one... Continued

Zane's Story
Coming out is not something that you just do one day. It is a process that you go through every time you tell some you are gay. I have been in the process of coming out for the last three years... Continued

Zaphiod's Story
I am still married at this time well sort of not if we can forget that piece of paper.

I was becoming more and more verbally abusive to my wife, not swearing or any kind of words against her, what I would say is things like why would I touch you,I want out... Continued

Anonymous 6
I choose to begin this story by saying that I have never felt that I have been in the closet. By that I mean that among my classmates, friends, and associates there were two, three or more people who seemed to be focused on and given attention to my sexual identity... Continued

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